Women must be trained since girlhood that their life is not hopeless without marriage.
India is a very different country. You’ll always get such amazing puzzling responses on things like usually if you tell somebody my daughter is getting married you expect them to congratulate you and ask who is the groom. However, sadly in India the response would be quite different something like ‘Kitne mein mane ladkewale?’ (More like some business deal) This is not a new thing in India rather something that is shamefully being carried out since generations.
Yes, it’s quite shocking but still many Indian families consider that if the grooms family is taking the daughter of their family home and they’ll be bearing all her expenses from now on wards so they need to balance it by asking money or furniture or anything well in advance i.e. DOWRY. If you would ever get a chance to visit a family court 8/10 cases are about the brutality woman faces in her marital house because of the demand of dowry. If you look at the bigger picture, one of the major reasons why the girl child is killed in the mother’s womb is dowry. Even while you are reading this article somebody is facing the cruelty by their in- laws on the name of dowry in India. The torture that the females face is not just arguments and comments but grave physical torture they get burned, they get hit, they don’t get proper food and even to the extent of getting raped by male family members which they say is a penalty of not getting proper amount of dowry.
Yes I know this is making your heart shiver and I tell you the solution for this is not saying that mugged up statement that what I can do about it. As far as the government is concerned they have made the regulations. Taking dowry criminalized under the Indian Penal Code and also a separate legislation exists to remove this malpractice from the roots of our country i.e. The Dowry prohibition Act, 1961. This Act shows a clear distinction between stridhan and dowry. A thing which is not demanded by the groom’s family and is given by the free will of the bride’s family is Stridhan and she is the sole owner of those gifts even in case of divorce she can ask back her Stridhan. This act don’t just criminalize asking dowry but also criminalize giving dowry. The punishment is penalty or imprisonment or both depending upon the facts of the case.
Now, coming back to the point that what can we do about it. There is no point of having law dealing with a certain issue until we follow it (it’s not optional but mandatory). Just think you marry to daughter to a family which asked you to pay dowry and you agree to it, is there any guarantee that they won’t be asking for more? Think! If they don’t have enough self respect that they are asking for dowry at the initial stage they will definitely be shameless enough to ask for it once your daughter goes to their house.
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